I get it. I, too, am a daughter, wife, mother and grandmother, and there are many who rely on my help, especially during the holidays. We women tend to give and give and give, until there isn’t anything left, and then we give some more.
Think back to the last time this happened in your life. What was the outcome? More than likely, you became so physically depleted that you got sick, or you were so emotionally drained that you began to resent all the demands. Who does this benefit? No one really. It puts strains on our bodies and our relationships.
When was the last time you flew on an airplane? Remember the safety instructions before takeoff? What did they tell you to do with the oxygen mask if it dropped down?
Put your own on first before helping someone else. Why is that?
Because if you don’t have your own mask on, you are likely to pass out for lack of oxygen.
You can’t pour from an empty pitcher.
So fill it up!
What I’m proposing is to take a small amount of time each day to fill your pitcher – and you are the one who will know best what will fill you up.
Self-care can be as simple as stopping for a few moments to take some slow, deep breaths; or putting on some music that lifts your spirit and dancing to it; or taking the time to do a manicure.
The things that bring joy and refreshing to your body don’t have to take large chunks of time to accomplish, but they must be done regularly to keep your pitcher full so you can pour out to others.